| Congratulations! You're getting married. Because | | | | wedding in case you missed something. |
| you're adults who are able to do so, you've | | | | Sometimes, there will be a lovely addition to the |
| decided to pay for your own wedding. The thing | | | | planning or the day. And, if you know what your |
| I've noticed when couples are paying for their | | | | plans are, what sort of wedding you're longing to |
| own weddings is that they're often much simpler. | | | | have, you can say, "oh, how lovely, but we're not |
| That may simply be because people paying for | | | | doing that particular thing." |
| their own weddings are generally older and have | | | | 8. Go away and consider whether you'd like to |
| more clarity about who they are and how they | | | | amend your plans. Remember, this wedding is |
| live. They tend to design their weddings in their | | | | about your getting married. You want to design a |
| own image. | | | | wedding ceremony that allows you to make the |
| As you're planning your wedding, you'll want to | | | | promises you need to make to create the |
| consider the roles you want your families to play | | | | marriage you're dreaming of. As you consider |
| in creating your wedding day and the roles they | | | | those things, however, you also want to consider |
| might want to play. | | | | what the good will is worth to include their |
| | | | suggestions in your wedding. You're going to be |
| 1. Determine the style and size wedding that | | | | living with one another's families a long time! |
| makes sense to your budget, your lifestyle and | | | | 9. But you need to stay grounded in your |
| your relationship. | | | | conversation with your beloved. It's very easy to |
| 2. Make lists of the tasks that need to be done | | | | say, oh, sure, oh sure, and lots of tiny things can |
| and the discrete events that will be part of the | | | | begin encroach on your plan and pretty soon your |
| lead up to the wedding and the wedding itself. | | | | perfect wedding doesn't look the way you |
| 3. Make some decisions between you about | | | | intended. |
| whether you want your parents to be involved. | | | | It's all about the balance. As long as you know |
| 4. If you're going to include them, think about | | | | what you want to do, you can welcome people's |
| their interests and styles. Take into consideration | | | | assistance. You may need to give up control, but |
| where they live and their abilities to participate. | | | | I've never run into a wedding without an |
| 5. Find a way to include them. Consider | | | | abundance of things to control! People can support |
| showcasing the things that make you very proud | | | | you and have a good time helping you by doing |
| of them. | | | | things they're actually good at! You get to design |
| 6. Tell them that although you're handling many of | | | | a wedding experience: planning, wedding ceremony |
| the details yourself, that you'd like to include them | | | | and reception that is a good celebration of the |
| in this particular way, if they're interested in | | | | wedding vows you are making and the marriage |
| participating. Tell them how you've always | | | | you are going to live into. You get to have the |
| admired the way they've done similar tasks. | | | | people you want as witnesses and as revelers. If |
| 7. Make sure you ask if there is something in | | | | you've got the money, it's a good way to go. |
| particular they'd thought about doing for your | | | | |