| Take a trip down memory lane, how did your | | | | become self-destructive (Baumrind 1977). |
| parents try to manage your behaviour. Were | | | | Authoritative parenting still have limits on their |
| they controlling, guiding or just laid back. Chances | | | | children but encourage them to be more |
| are that you probably use the same techniques | | | | independent and to make their own decisions, |
| to discipline your own offspring. We all would have | | | | giving guidance when needed. Using this technique |
| learnt from experiences throughout our own | | | | with children seem to create a more cooperative |
| childhood. | | | | child. When requested to perform a task they see |
| The way your parents brought you up is probably | | | | it as being fair and reasonable. These children tend |
| the same way you are raising your children right | | | | to be more self-confident when it comes to |
| now. | | | | dealing with their own needs, they have a |
| Diana Baumrind (1967) suggests that there are | | | | confidence in their parents that they will always |
| three parenting styles used by parents to help | | | | be there for them, listen to their needs. In doing |
| children with behaviour. | | | | this, these parents will create a child that will |
| The three types of parenting styles are: | | | | develop trust for others either in business or just |
| Authoritarian - a parent who likes to control. | | | | in family life. |
| Authoritative - someone who leads and gives | | | | Permissive parents are responsive but not |
| guidance. | | | | demanding. Tending to be more lenient and |
| Permissive (Laissez-faire) - an anything goes, laid | | | | tolerant. These parents are very nurturing and |
| back casual approach. (Children are people too, a | | | | accept children's needs and wants. Letting children |
| parent's guide to young children's behaviour. Louise | | | | make their own decisions early in their life even if |
| Porter, 2001) | | | | they are not capable of doing so. No rules or |
| Controlling parents have strict rules that must be | | | | boundaries are set and children are made to feel |
| followed. They try to have power over their | | | | as though they are free. Children raised by lenient |
| children and issue commands at all times. And | | | | parents can have higher self-esteem and better |
| issue demands and are unresponsive. There is no | | | | social skills but are inclined to have behaviour |
| room for failure to comply with these rules they | | | | problems. |
| make or punishment will be the result. These | | | | These parenting styles teach our children and can |
| children have a tendency to be more reserved, | | | | be a great influence on how they develop and |
| more apprehensive, unhappy and have low self | | | | socialise throughout their learning years and into |
| esteem. Confrontational, angry and unwilling to | | | | adulthood. |
| persist with most tasks that they encounter. | | | | Nobody is an expert at raising children, there is no |
| Children of controlling parents are unable to make | | | | handbook to follow but using a little from each |
| decisions on their own and sometimes can | | | | style can be the best approach. |