| When your boyfriend decides to end the | | | | sometimes a little unstable. Taken to the extreme |
| relationship, it's easy to go into panic mode and do | | | | it can even be considered harassment! |
| things you know you shouldn't but can't help but | | | | A far better way to deal with this is to follow |
| turn to. Fighting your first impulses isn't easy, but | | | | that One Month of No Contact rule. It gives both |
| if you allow yourself to make the wrong | | | | of you some time to cool off and get your minds |
| mistakes, it can really hurt your chances of | | | | and lives settled, and lets the fiery breakup |
| getting him back. Text Message Terrorism is one | | | | emotions turn to missing each other and wanting |
| of those mistakes. | | | | each other back. You KNOW it's happening to |
| For most people, this comes as a panic response | | | | you, and you can bet if you two really were close |
| to the worry that they'll lose their ex forever and | | | | it'll be happening to him --but ONLY if you're NOT |
| in their minds it's the only way they can think of | | | | there. |
| to latch onto their ex and keep themselves on his | | | | Another grave mistake you can make is after |
| mind. What Text-Message Terrorism refers to is | | | | that month is up, when you actively pursue him |
| the onslaught of constant phone calls, emails, and | | | | again. Too many people assume that their first |
| you guessed it, text messages. | | | | instincts are the best course of action when it |
| Not only does this violate the sacred "No Contact | | | | comes to getting your ex back, when they're |
| for a Month" rule that I set down for everybody | | | | most decidedly not. To make this as smooth and |
| in an immediate post-breakup situation, it puts you | | | | easy as possible, you'll need an underlying |
| into a seriously bad position in your ex's eyes. To | | | | strategy, a plan that you know works. Without it, |
| be blunt, it makes you look clingy, desperate, and | | | | you're just setting yourself up for a lot of misery. |