| Making the decision as to where to live depends | | | | to a very nice retirement home that was |
| on many things including health, move-ability and | | | | beautiful, a real resort. He had amazing food, a |
| finances. We just recently went through this | | | | swimming pool, exercise classes, art classes, |
| experience with my father-in-law. After my | | | | physical therapy even church was held in the |
| mother-in-law passed away two years ago, he | | | | facility. We thought he would thrive there, but |
| was able to stay in his house and take care of | | | | sadly he didn't. We thought he would enjoy peers, |
| things. He quickly deteriorated out of loneliness | | | | friendship and companionship but all he wanted to |
| and age and it was soon apparent he wouldn't be | | | | do was go home. After many family meetings |
| able to stay in his own home. Unfortunately | | | | and much deliberation it was decided my |
| before anything was done about it he fell and | | | | father-in-law would move in with his daughter. He |
| broke his hip forcing the family to find better living | | | | has taken advantage of services for assisted |
| conditions for him. After surgery he was moved | | | | living in New Bern and has thrived for the first |
| to an assisted living center where he found | | | | time since his wife passed on. |
| companionship, activities, and decent meals three | | | | Every senior has different need, different financial |
| times a day. He did stay in his room for much of | | | | concerns and different personalities. He didn't need |
| the time but came out for meals and a few | | | | all the social activities, he just wanted to be with |
| activities. | | | | family in a familiar place. He just wanted to be |
| This worked well for about five weeks and then | | | | home and that is a great place to be. |
| he became restless and unhappy. We moved him | | | | |